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The Oral Exam. Of course I can't reveal much about the exam, nor the content of our coaching with respect to my two clients. However, I will bring up aspects from my experience that had an impact on my overall coaching. My first client mentioned early on in our session something about Future self. I was really into "Future Self" at the time and so when I heard that word, I instantly knew how I should take this session. After all, I was the self-proclaimed "Future Self" expert. I proceeded to launch into this whole thing, trying to impress the examiners and my client with how much I "got" future self, while trying to guide my client through a modified FS exercise in only 12 minutes. An amazing task that the examiners were sure to be impressed by.
"Hey, you may be on to something. OK. But keep an ear out for when you can slip it in. That should really impress them." "Impress who?" "Well, your client, and of course the examiners." "Yeah. But really all I need to do is just listen to my client." "Good point. Well, are you?" "Am I what?" "Listening to your client." "Well, her lips are moving. I'm here coaching her. So I must be." "Fair enough. But what is she saying?" "I guess I don't know." "Well, then, don't you think you should start actually listening to her instead of talking with me?" "Yeah. You're right. I should do that." "Ok, then do it." "I am." "Are you sure?" "Of course, I'm sure. What do you think I am? New at this? I'm a coach. That's what I do. I listen to my client." "OK, smarty. Then what is she saying." "Who?" "Your client that you are listening to." "I don't know." "Why not?" "Cause I'm busy talking to you." "Well, forget about me and listen to your client." "OK. I will."
"Oh, pretty good. I'm holding up all right. I think I'll make it through this oral part and then be able to relax a little. It's hard work controlling my energy." "Yeah, I know. Well, keep it up." "Thanks." "No problem. By the way, what is she talking about?" "Who? My client? Something about a cliff, I think. What am I going to do with a cliff? Man. I don't know. I already did Fulfillment stuff with the first client. maybe I can do some Balance stuff. That'll show my range and versatility." "Good idea. Meanwhile, perhaps you should listen to your client." "Oh yeah. Man, that music next door is loud." At one point, my poor client locked my shoulders and said, "Coach! I NEED to go here." She certainly put up an valiant effort and did everything she could to help me succeed in my exam. But to no avail. i was so busy pacing myself, conserving my energy, and trying to DO a good job so I wouldn't let everyone down that I just couldn't allow myself to take on one more thing, especially something like actually listening to my client. |